Saying "no" to one thing often means you're making space to say "yes" to something else.
"Sometimes I just don't have the bandwidth or energy to take on a project, even though I want to please the person who has made the request," notes Jim Kendall, LCSW, Manager of Work/Life Connections-EAP. "When we talk about having a better work/life balance, often we mean that we want to fit in things that are important to us," Kendall adds. "I think of it as "Priority Balance".
In a work environment, there are often responsibilities and tasks that you can't decline. However, there may be ways to manage your workload, consider your priorities, and set boundaries effectively.
Establishing limits and saying "no" when there are options can be empowering. It allows you to protect your time, energy, and resources for the things that truly matter to you or might be more fulfilling.
Here are a few tips on how to effectively set boundaries:
- Prioritize Your Needs: Understand what is most important to you and make those your priority.
- Be Clear and Direct: Clearly communicate your limits and expectations to others.
- Practice Self-Care: Taking care of yourself helps you maintain the energy and focus needed to uphold your boundaries.
- Stay Consistent: Consistency reinforces your boundaries and helps others understand and respect them.
Saying "no" can open opportunities for others to step in who might want to say "yes", allowing them to contribute and professionally grow. You may offer to be a consultant, if they need advice. You can also foster a more collaborative and balanced environment by encouraging contributions from others who may have a different perspective. Mentoring and trusting others with responsibilities can strengthen your relationships and build a supportive community.
If you are seeking coaching with your priority balance, VUMC faculty, staff, and their spouses can call Work/Life Connections-EAP at 615-936-1327 to make a free, confidential appointment with one of our clinical counselors.
